"Listen love (I can hear you say...), you clearly have never been busy. You don't know what its like to juggle all the responsibilities I have (list XYZ inserted here)...".
And you know what? I don't. I don't know what it's like to juggle all the things you do on a daily basis. In fact, no one else (bar you!) could ever know what it's like to do what you do.
But you want to know the truth? It's a choice. Now don't get me wrong - your day can be filled with NUMEROUS responsibilities including clients/ work/ children/ partners/ parents/ household tasks....the list goes on. And the majority may be unavoidable.
But how you FEEL doing these tasks is the absolute KEY as to whether you're busy and overwhelmed OR calm and in control.
And that is 100% about the zone in between your two ears.
...Now I'm guessing you have to do things you don't like doing. I get it - we all do.
But if you want to stop feeling overwhelmed and out of control, I can help. Are you keen to know how?
Lets take a micro-dive into how this works.
Look at each task in your day and ask yourself the following questions:
1. Do I really need to do this?
Yes or No answer. It's a simple question.
2. Why do I need to do this?
Get honest with the REAL reason why. For example, you might be thinking about your place of employment. Reality is you don't turn up because you HAVE to. The answer is more nuanced than that.
You may turn up because you love your job. You may turn up because of your amazing clients/patients/customers. And you may be turning up for the paycheck at the end of the week. They are all EQUALLY VALID.
But get clear on WHY you do something.
3. What does that give you?
This is the CRITICAL question that is ALWAYS overlooked. What does that reason for doing something give you? It may sound confusing but let me give an example that explains it:
1. Jenny hates her job, but its close to home and the money is great.
2. She goes everyday because of the paycheck at the end of the month.
3. That paycheck puts food in the mouths of her family, a roof over their head and the ability to have experiences together like go to the movies and out to dinner.
THAT's why she turns up at work each day. For the experiences she can give her family.
So you can see the key to this is linking what you are doing to WHY, and how that makes you FEEL. Once you anchor the activity to your key drivers - your why and the feeling you get from it. It shifts the busy, stressed activities into calm ones as it enables you to focus on the END GOAL. Not the current stress/intensity.
Take an audit of what you are doing. Get rid of what you can and ensure everything you are doing is giving you something worthwhile.